If we want our young people to be prepared for marriage these are the questions that we must ask: In answering these questions, we need to know the criteria by which the answers must be judged.
Our culture finds it hard to make such judgements because the dating scene seems to be an expression of "teenagers in love" - and love is thought to be something that just happens, over which we have no control.
" In our day, dating arrangements are made entirely by young people apart from parental involvement.
The date is planned by young people with a known expectation of physical intimacy.
We are confronted with a massive predominance of amorality. It remains true that it is very unlikely that a girl will get pregnant if she does not go on a date.
But the practice of dating has transformed the nature of teenage sexuality. It robs a man of the inheritance of an unspoiled wife, and robs the institution of the family of its true foundation. It is naive to think that a woman is able to make decisions limiting sexual activity in an unsupervised context.
The test is Rom - "true love does no harm to a neighbour and fulfills the law." So we must find a lawful way for our young people to fall in love and prepare for marriage. It is an established cultural norm to be followed without further question.
Most parents continue to allow dating because it is the way that they did things in their day, and they believe that they survived.All that is unknown is its degree, or the speed of its intensification. Without her father's protection, she alone must determine the degree of sexual intimacy, and that in the heat of the moment.Furthermore, there is no commitment beyond the next date; relationships (and thus marriage) are initiated out of a romantic attraction.Ask yourself these questions: "Which is more biblical? " In earlier times, all courtship included rigid supervision and protection of the female.It was built on the premise of family introductions, and the focus was on the father's role in establishing a new family, hence the question in the marriage ceremony, "Who gives this woman away?Is it just an innocent cultural expression; the way we do things in the west in the present century? " Jim West has defined a date as, "Any planned event involving a shared activity between a man and a woman" - one person asks the other to share in an activity, and a publicly recognizable pairing occurs.