You might think this will make you stand out as "not one of those guys," and it does.
No woman wants to be reminded that they're just another one in a crowd.
Similarly, giving a woman "bonus points" if she likes something that you do or can guess something about you based on a hint you placed in your profile makes you seem like you are always testing a lot of women and that they're just another dumb girl you're putting through their fool-proof test.
But there are also a lot of women who are on online dating sites because they would actually like to meet someone.
They don't just want an online friend and they're not on there to boost their ego. I still use it time and again when I'm bored, probably like some women do.
Even though it's getting more popular, talking to women online isn't that easy.
There are some proven things that work when trying to start conversations, though.
Some girls really are scared to meet up with men from online dating with a site like POF, where it's hard to really know who you're talking to, and I don't blame them.
POF is so risk-free it actually becomes a little risky, especially for women.
They either send too many messages and the conversation dies off before they get a chance to meet in real life, or they push for a date too soon when one party isn't ready.
The best advice for engaging in conversation is to stay positive, ask her specific questions about herself with information you got from her profile, and ask for a date as soon as possible (within three messages).
Most women are using it to have fun, so have some fun! Don't forget to make a good profile too (see end of article). There are some approaches which seem to be really common that actually don't work at all. Here they are: Example: Hi This is a pretty common conversation approach, which is like you'd use if you were meeting a stranger in real life, so you say "Hi" or "How's your day been so far? " question to any one of those lame icebreaker questions we've all had to deal with. One is that they sound like you Googled "good ways to start conversation with women" and went with the first one you saw.