“If your goal is to learn about him, then you can always succeed.” If your nerves get the best of you and you can’t think of one intelligible thing to say, don’t worry—and don’t assume that moments of silence mean a lack of interest.
Barbie Adler, matchmaker and founder of Selective Search, says lulls in conversation are totally normal, especially because of first-date jitters and the pressure you’ve likely put on yourself to come across as effortlessly cool.
It's OK to Google someone before a date or check them out quickly on Facebook, but no good comes from memorizing their history or scrounging for information about their exes."Don't do dinner. Sitting down to a meal means you'll be stuck for at least an hour.
"My best advice: Forget all your preconceived notions.
Consider a blind date just a fun way to meet someone new.
Yet regardless of how much you’ve been texting, talking, or Snapchatting beforehand, it’s really no different than a “blind” date of yesteryear—the other party is still basically a stranger.
To that end, the first IRL encounter with a new potential partner should be handled with a high dose of openness and a low dose of expectations.
"Remember, this is a relationship between two people, not three.
After a bad date, spare the person who set you up the details of how awful it was; just tell her you don't think it's going to work out.
Because what if he’s just plain weird or the conversation is about as scintillating as watching paint dry?
To help you master the art of blind dating, we’ve come up with seven handy survival steps to save you from those first-date jitters.
You could also go for a walk—that gives you something to talk about without that uncomfortable moment of figuring out the check.