So much so that a discussion about it has been started on Advice. No more “I live life to the fullest,” “I like to paint the town red,” “I’m drama free,” “I like to take things slow,” or “I’m looking for my best friend.” Try and show a little originality.
Too many women sit back and wait for a guy to initiate communication.
If you see someone who looks interesting, send them a hello!
----- As a coach, I encourage women to "know their brand" of femininity.
I am not going back to look at the 100 men who claim they "want to meet me." I will respond to men who actually take the time to write more than "Hi," and introduce themselves as possible suitors.
Don't "favorite me," "want to meet me," or "like" my profile. Just because sites have those options doesn't mean you have to use them. Tell me you liked what you saw and read, and make a connection.
Way too many people write exactly the same things on their profiles.
If you are confused – e Harmony’s Customer Care team is great at helping! If you reach out to someone and never hear back, move onto the next. Many men seem to be at a loss for words – literally – providing some of the shortest responses we have ever seen.
Don’t look back or think about why she never contacted you – because you will never know why. 40 is the new 30 these days, so consider being more flexible about age. Take a little more time to communicate on that profile, and if you are still at a loss, enlist your sister or gal pal to help with some of those important descriptions.You can sort through five or more supposedly "highly qualified leads" -- in some cases daily. If you: Put up recent pictures up that show your eyes (and not your lavatory); Put thought into your profile; Message me directly with something thoughtful; Get my number, and Ask me out ..you're proving you're not afraid to take the lead. The question is, whose definition of highly qualified are we talking about? You're demonstrating that you know how to do this whole taking-care-of-a-woman thing from the start. As much as some of us hate to admit it, online dating is here to stay. If you ask for my number, make the call and ASK ME OUT. And we're not teenagers who need to hide behind texting until we "feel comfortable" enough to talk. If you don't like to cook, the pictures on your profile shouldn't show you in an apron, holding up an apple pie.Many companies have great success rates for relationships and marriage, and I'm glad technology has the ability to aid some of us in finding true love. I'm on the site to date and/or presumably to find a mate. And if you want a relationship, you shouldn't put your pole-dancing pictures up.Look, we do want to see your hot bod, but get a friend to take a few pix at the gym or a sporting event. We really don't want to think about what went on in there before or after you took the picture. Write more than a paragraph if you actually want a date. But if you check the box "wants a relationship" and then don't take the time and effort to write a decent profile, the message we receive is: "I'm looking for a hookup" and "I use love to get sex." Actually, that last part is giving you too much credit -- it would require self-awareness. Sure, it works at a party; we're face-to-face, making eye contact. Take off your sunglasses and let us see the real you. We're not in college anymore and this isn't a frat. Stop putting up pix of you with the gaggle of girls you were hanging out with during your drunken escapades. Hey, let's face it: You're the consistent factor in all your relationships. There's nothing worse than showing up and discovering that I can't even recognize you in the restaurant.