Five minutes into the date, his cell phone rings and he excuses himself and takes the call outside. Cell phones, Blackberries, and i Phones should be turned off and put away.
This is just a precursor for what might be in store for you if you get involved with a person like this.
If he'll blow you off for a call on a first date, you don't want to know what will happen when he stops trying to impress you. Read more New York City dating advice from Matt and Tamsen or visit their site.
Do you have a New York City dating or relationship question for Matt and Tamsen?
Prove you're not one of those nut jobs and we'll chat. New Yorkers think they've seen it all, but with so many new restaurants and shows and weirdo tourist attractions popping up all the time, there's no way that's true. There are, like, 14 food delivery apps for a reason.
I always laugh when guys in NYC say, "Man, why are women so on guard all the time? So do 12 construction workers on my way home and some weird asshole on the subway and Weird Barry who is always sitting outside my building. Sometimes it's just totally out-of-the-blue inappropriate touching, sometimes it's someone yelling at a waitress out of nowhere to the point where we're truly terrified, but the point is, between that and the street harassment, we might be a little on edge. If you can show us something we've never seen before, that's as good as gold.
“These women are spinsters-in-training, but they can turn it around,” says the 50-something divorcée.
“They need to apply the same attitude and gumption that got them to New York City to the task of getting a husband.” So listen up, unattached ladies!
I have a crush on an acquaintance of mine, but I'm afraid to approach him because I haven't dated in years (just got out of a long relationship last year).
Matt says women in New York make lots of dating mistakes and I'm afraid of doing the wrong thing.
What's the best way to start slow and approach my crush?
Tamsen and Matt say: You need to have the right mentality when you are going to be proactive and take matters of the heart into your own hands in order to make love happen.
If you live in the Bronx and I don't, you are not my soul mate. And if you are, I'm sorry but that commute is no fucking joke and I simply cannot. One group text is sent and we're all yours (JK, JK). Our city is pretty compact, so even though it might sound nuts to be like, "I can't go to the East Village," that's actually like saying, "I don't love going near Exit 19B" on the highway in most other cities, so it's pretty reasonable.8. It'll easily take me 30 to 45 minutes to get there, and that's if all the trains haven't mysteriously shut down because of construction no one believes will actually ever fix anything, but that's a whole other thing. Which means we probably don't want to just "come over and hang out" for the majority of our first few dates.13.